Why Intelligent People May Find It Difficult With Romantic Relationship

Marriage institution may have been invented to limit man’s intellectual achievement; to pin him down with such irksome burden so as to disregard the taunting urge to seek for knowledge and truth: an occupation which his very nature is allured to. But I must immediately admit here that there are innumerable advantages marriage broods, such as the breeding of children to boost human population, and then a medication to heal man’s undying quest for socialization and sex.

There are however as numerous disadvantages as there are advantages. But this discourse shall be restricted to one very disadvantage of marriage which is so insidious that it is only detected by those with keen eyes. This one disadvantage – which appears invisible – is Intellectual Degradation. It behoves the reader to know that, great intellectuals, who embellished history with their ebullient deeds seldom ever got happiness in their marital or social lives. This is not because they willed this to be, or because they added an additional feather of fame to their cap by living a solitary life devoid of the warmth of marital bliss. They too felt sad and sullen, seeing their marriages crumble due to reckless handling of its structure which had been made wonky by inconsistencies and the unforgiving bartering of commitments. This occurs because Intellectual Capability is like a woman, and marrying it (which those indulged in it are most likely to do) is like bringing in a second wife into a home. Since both have jealousy tendency, they certainly would wrestle over time; the stronger (often the wife) pushing away the weaker one.

In terms of commitment, relationship is burdensome, in the sense that it requires quality time to remain quite active and strong. For a marriage to be a bit of a success, the partners must not lag in communication and intimacy. This also applies to Intellectual Capability. For you to do great things and cause history to be hollow when your moving intellectual achievements are subtracted from its bowel, you have to first have an unstoppable love for intellectual dealings, spend many hours studying, quite dedicated to seeking for knowledge between lines and pages of books, spend a quality time thinking about the world and what knowledge you desire to affect the world with; lastly, search for a cheap and reliable way to get this knowledge out either through public lecture or writing, so it could be adopted by those who fancy it. These must be followed piously; else, there would be a crack somewhere.

Now, combining intense intellectual dedication and marital bliss is somehow a nightmare. A married man cannot shut himself up in his study for a whole day, without expecting his wife to knock on that door to inquire if she had offended him in anyway. Likewise, you cannot keep your wife company all day, without you thinking there is work to do in the study room, if you are so dedicated to book-life. You find it difficult to type a text and give a call when you are engrossed with seeking knowledge; the same way, you feel lassitude towards reading when someone you are madly in love with is around you. You see, it is always difficult to maintain fulfilling romantic relationship and a life of great intellectual capability side by side. Although, some very few balance this, but not to greater resonance as those who choose to go by one.

Ohikhuare Isuku